Confucius said, "The superior man has nine things which are subjects with him of thoughtful consideration. … In regard to his speech, he is anxious that it should be sincere. … When he is angry, he thinks of the difficulties (his anger may involve him in). …
孔子曰、君子有九思…言思忠…忿思難
Keep thy tongue from evil, And thy lips from speaking guile.
A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger.
Hold to forgiveness; command what is right; But turn away from the ignorant.
Not to commit any sin, to do good, and to purify one's mind, that is the teaching of (all) the Awakened.
By conquering anger he obtains patience; he acquires no Karman productive of anger, and destroys the Karman he had acquired before.
Humility is the word, forgiveness is the virtue, and sweet speech is the magic mantra. Wear these three robes, O sister, and you will captivate your Husband Lord.
Be silent, O thou who knowest many things! for he that speaketh little will be free from reproach on the Day of Judgment. The man of many words is deaf; no counsel does he heed like silence. …