Dhammapada 3-5

BuddhismDhammapada 3-5

'He abused me, he beat me, he defeated me, he robbed me,'--in those who harbour such thoughts hatred will never cease. 'He abused me, he beat me, he defeated me, he robbed me,'--in those who do not harbour such thoughts hatred will cease. For hatred does not cease by hatred at any time: hatred ceases by love, this is an old rule.

Akkocchi maṁ avadhi maṁ, ajini maṁ ahāsi me; Ye ca taṁ upanayhanti, veraṁ tesaṁ na sammati. Akkocchi maṁ avadhi maṁ, ajini maṁ ahāsi me; Ye ca taṁ nupanayhanti, veraṁ tesūpasammati. Na hi verena verāni, sammantīdha kudācanaṁ; Averena ca sammanti, esa dhammo sanantano.

⟲ Forgiving others ⟲ Reconciliation ☮ Restraint of anger

The same idea in other traditions

ChristianityProverbs 15:1

A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger.

JudaismProverbs 15:1

A soft answer turneth away wrath; But a grievous word stirreth up anger.

IslamQuran 7:199

Hold to forgiveness; command what is right; But turn away from the ignorant.

ConfucianismAnalects 15.27

The Master said, "Specious words confound virtue. Want of forbearance in small matters confounds great plans."

JainismUttaradhyayana 29.67

By conquering anger he obtains patience; he acquires no Karman productive of anger, and destroys the Karman he had acquired before.

SikhismSGGS Ang 1427

One who is not affected by pleasure or pain, who looks upon friend and enemy alike - says Nanak, listen, mind: know that such a person is liberated.

SufismMasnavi, Book II, Story 7

Thou hast come to draw men to union with me, / Not to drive them far away from me. / So far as possible, engage not in dissevering; / 'The thing most repugnant to me is divorce.' …

HinduismBhagavad Gita 12.13-14

That devotee of mine, who hates no being, who is friendly and compassionate, who is free from egoism, and from (the idea that this or that is) mine, to whom happiness and misery are alike, who is forgiving, contented, constantly devoted, self-restrained, and firm in his determinations, and whose mind and understanding are devoted to me, he is dear to me.